Navigating “mom life” with two teenage daughters ain’t easy.
Lately I feel the tug of give and take– of holding on and letting go- at the same time. Giving the girls room to be who they are while also giving them necessary guard rails for protection.
Like what happened two summers ago…
The girls had just begun to listen to different kinds of music. For most of their childhood, I only allowed them to listen to Christian music or music that was “clean”. I always had control of the radio in the car, and it was always on the Christian radio station.
But two summers ago, the girls started asking me to change the radio station to listen to other kinds of music. At first I resisted. What if they heard something in these lyrics that changed them, or caused them to *gasp” not be a Christian any more?! I slowly realized the irrational fear I had, and that I needed to let them be kids and enjoy the music they liked. After all, I did grow up listening to hair metal bands and grunge music… and I think I turned out ok 🙂
So, little by little, I let them occasionally choose to listen to their choice of music in the car. One of those groups happened to be 21 Pilots. As I listened to the girls sing every word to the Blurry Face CD, I realized that their music was actually really good. That summer we drove to Universal Studios in Florida, and we listened to nothing but 21 Pilots, One Direction, and various other favorites of my girls for the 10+ hour car ride there and back.
It was a coming of age time for them, and a time when I realized that my girls were growing up- that they were enjoying new things and searching for their identities. And it made me realize that we have raised them right and pointed them to Jesus… and that it’s ok to give them a little room to explore. In fact, I have grown to love some of their favorite songs!
So for my birthday this past Sunday, my awesome hubby got tickets for the girls and I to go to the 21 Pilots concert. They just happened to be here on my birthday- and the show was absolutely amazing! The girls and I sang every word of every song and I loved every second of it. Most of all, I loved being with them- not just because I’m their mom, but because I love the people they are becoming!
At the concert, I leaned over to both girls and said this- “Isn’t it neat that we’re here at a 21 Pilots concert on my birthday… celebrating with thousands of other people… and isn’t it cool that I am 21×2 today (42)? And I get to celebrate with my 2 favorite girls!”
Isn’t it something to know that while our kids are growing up-
we’re still growing up, too!
“There are two things we should give our children; one is roots and the other is wings.”- author unknown